Year 1, Month 2, Day 12
I guess I should update you on HIM and Todd.
I got a text from HIM a few days ago, ending the sexual part of our relationship….which is what I thought would happen. Long story short, HIS wife found HIS Viagra prescription, and confronted HIM about fooling around. He apparently managed to talk HIS way out of it, but knows that she is watching HIS every move. So HE has decided to “be a good boy” and rededicate HIMSELF to making HIS marriage work.
That is exactly what HE should be doing. But, I still think HE is on the road to a divorce. HE may say they are basically happy with each other and all that was missing was “passion,” I have learned once the sex life dies, the rest of the relationship will follow. There may be a flare up when both people try to rekindle the flame, but it is short-lived.
I learned this when I was trying to make things work with Robert. Of course, I wasn’t aware of his philandering, but after Peter came into my life, something awakened in me, and I realized I needed/deserved better than Robert. And, I helped Peter realize he needed/deserved better than HER. HE is in the same position Peter was this time last year. So yes, a split with HIS wife is probably going to happen.
I was not angry or hateful when HE ended things. HE is a friend after all, and I want HIM to have a happy life and the relationship HE (and all of us) deserve.
Now, on to Todd.
No response to my message from a week ago. However, he keeps visiting my profile regularly. Todd has obviously decided to not pursue a personal relationship at this point in time, but he is still interested, just not enough. Or, as I said in my earlier post, he may still be weighing the ethical implications of getting romantically involved with a former client (who has a dumb ass in-law who drove him crazy). It doesn’t mean he may not be in touch later. But, I’m not going to worry/obsess about it. His loss as far as I am concerned.
Now…let me introduce you to Elliott.
We met on OK Cupid right after Christmas. We exchanged email addresses, and then…NOTHING. I decided he flaked out and I wasn’t concerned.
Then, a couple of weeks ago, he got back in touch with me via the site and he had emailed me, but got no response. I replied that I had not gotten an email (and that I had checked my spam and trash folders, and nothing from his email addy was there). We then exchanged phone numbers and emails again, and this time we managed to communicate off site.
We decided to meet up the following Sunday afternoon for a quick drink and see how things went.
Sunday rolls around and I wake up with a horrible sinus headache. I take a dose of Benadryl and hope it goes away in time. I fall back asleep, and when I awaken a couple of hours later, my headache is no better. So, I decide to text Elliott and ask for a rain check sometime the following week. He replies, “No problem. How about tomorrow at 5pm…same location.” I say that should work, see you then.
I stay in bed for most of the day, sleeping off the Benadryl and this fucking headache.
Monday dawns and my sinus headache is gone. I make it to the restaurant a few minutes early, and wait for Elliott. He arrives a couple of minutes late, and we walk into the bar and he immediately asks if I want to order dinner; he is starving and just doesn’t want to put off eating for a couple of hours. I agree and order a salad, while he digs into a big burger and fries.
Elliott is an “average” looking guy. About 5’10”, thin, light brown hair, very pretty hazel eyes. Nice voice. We end up connecting and having a very pleasant conversation that lasts for nearly three hours.
Because he has to be at work at the insane hour of 7am, we called it an evening shortly after 8pm. He walks me to my car, and then leans in to give me a kiss.
It was a good kiss. Not perfect, but good enough that I thought there could be something there.
We move apart, and he just looks at me and says “Wow! You are a fantastic kisser!” And he moves in for another kiss. It was just as nice as the first one.
He says good night, and walks back toward his car. I get in mine, and head home.
Ten minutes later, I get a text from Elliott, asking if he could call me. I say sure. A minute later, my phone rings. It’s Elliott and he says he would like to see me again on Thursday evening. I say okay. We agree to meet at Buckets at 5pm.
Thursday comes around, and we meet up at Buckets. Again, the conversation was relaxed and easy. We had a couple of beers, and again, because of his crazy work schedule we call it a night… after another couple of very nice goodnight kisses.
This time, however, there are no texts or phone calls immediately after. In fact, I don’t hear from him until Sunday, and he asks to see me again the following Thursday evening. I agree, but I think to myself, “Thursday…AGAIN? What is up with this dude?”
So, first red flag.
So, we get together last night…after he moves the time back another thirty minutes…so we end up changing plans from the movie we had intended to see to meeting up at yet another bar. So, another short evening… and yes… a couple more very nice kisses when he drops me off at my place. (Yes, he picked me up…but it was so damn cold I didn’t want him to get out of the car.)
While I like Elliott, I doubt if we’ll get serious. We have made tentative plans to see other again a week from Sunday; an afternoon date. I suspect this is when he is going to make his move…and I’ll have a decision to make.
Do I want a FWB relationship with Elliott…because that is ALL it is going to be if I decide to sleep with him. I suspect he has a girlfriend tucked away somewhere…thus the short, non-traditional weeknight dates. I haven’t had a chance to ask him yet…there is just something a little furtive about him, and I don’t want to ask him these kind of questions in public.
So, I guess I’ll find this crap out in a week. Stay tuned Gentle Readers…
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