Year One, Month 2, Day 29
I enjoy the Olympics…particularly the Winter Games.
I love the grace and beauty of figure skating. I admire the sheer bravery of the sliding athletes (bobsled, luge and skeleton). The stunts in Freestyle skiing and half pipe snowboarding are astonishing.
It’s great to see the best athletes in the world compete and win. And, I always feel a little bad for the silver medalist. To paraphrase Jerry Seinfeld, “You’re the best of the losers. Nobody lost better than you.” Sure, it’s funny. But it’s true.
These kids work, train, and give up their lives to achieve their dreams of Olympic glory. And then to miss the gold medal by 1/100 of a second must be heartbreaking.
While they make the medal stand and glad to be there, part of them has be a little sad at coming up second best.
That’s a feeling I know all too well, Gentle Reader.
And I hate it.
I have had a few stark reminders the last couple weeks that I am, for some reason, always second best when it comes to men.
I waited in vain for Robert to propose. I settled for being Peter’s dirty little secret…. not just last year but when we first dated in 1989. Troy had other plans and things that were more important than me. I fucked a married guy and allowed him to walk away scot-free. And I now find myself in a sexual relationship with a man while I continue looking for my Mr. Darcy.
I’m not sure why men never see me as the prize. I’m intelligent, funny, not unattractive, loving, loyal, passionate and caring. I’m a great cook, and not afraid to use power tools or change a tire. I don’t need a man to complete me…but I do want one to complement me.
I am a happier and more stable person than I was this time a year ago, but I know the chances of finding love, at my age, are slim.
Why do men ALWAYS see me as the back up girl…the bridesmaid…the silver medalist?
Is it because I see myself as second best; not worthy of being a man’s first choice?
That’s a thought that’s going to fester, Gentle Readers.
I’m tired of coming in second.
I want that gold medal.